In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA******, Redditor u/Sadandexhausted133 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she felt disrespected by the accommodations provided by her mother-in-law and detailed the heated aftermath of her decision to skip the ceremony.

Titled, “[Am I the a******] for missing my [father-in-law’s] funeral after my [mother-in-law] booked my husband first class but me economy?” the post has received more than 20,000 upvotes and 7,500 comments since October 25.

“Me…and my [mother-in-law] don’t have a close relationship,” OP began. “She’s civil towards me but can be a bit passive aggressive at times.”

Continuing to explain that her father-in-law had recently passed away, OP said she and her husband planned to attend his funeral being held multiple states away, but were stunned to discover she’d be flying separately from him.

“The issue started when my husband told me we couldn’t sit together…because his mom had booked him a first class ticket while I got economy,” OP wrote. “I was flabbergasted by this. I tried asking him why but he urged me to ‘suck it up.’

“I felt so much humiliation and contempt. I felt like [my mother-in-law] was treating me as less than,” OP continued. “I decided not to go and just [went] back home.

“My husband was shocked…he went alone and I ended up missing the funeral,” OP added. “He said I should be grateful his mom paid for my ticket to begin with…[and] said it was cruel what I did and that his mom and family will never forget.”

Although some people share enriching and fulfilling connections with their partner’s parents, poor in-law relationships are all too common.

Usually a result of the need for parental control, preconceived contempt and general standoffishness, these relationships can be difficult for both parents and partners, as well as the individual in the middle.

“In-laws come into these relationships with different family cultures, relationships and histories,” licensed marriage and family therapist and ChoosingTherapy.com expert Martha Teater told Newsweek.

“The one thing they definitely have in common is…their love for the adult child of the parental in-law,” Teater added. “Sometimes they don’t have a lot more in common than that.”

The potential for tension is high in these types of scenarios, namely because the only commonality between an individual and their in-laws is their partner.

But major family occurrences can serve as great equalizers for partners at odds with their in-laws, especially when a loved one is lost and seeming enemies are able to put aside their bad blood for at least one day.

“Ideally, both parties [will] make a decision that family harmony is important enough to put aside any friction or discord they may feel,” Teater continued. “They don’t have to be each other’s favorite person.

Concerning the viral Reddit post, Teater also said OP was surely hurt by her economy class ticket, but could have expressed her dismay in an entirely different manner.

“Her attendance at the funeral didn’t have to indicate that she felt good about her seat assignment, but that she was choosing to support her husband in his grief and to show respect for her father-in-law,” she noted.

Throughout the viral post’s comment section, many Redditors echoed that sentiment.

“The seat issue was more important than supporting your husband after the death of his father?” Redditor u/wickedlucky214 questioned in the post’s top comment, which has received nearly 38,000 upvotes.

“This is exactly the point,” Redditor u/karenna89 commented, receiving more than 21,000 upvotes. “You made your husband go to his father’s funeral without the support of his spouse and you did this over a first class seat.”

Redditor u/MaybeAWalrus, whose comment has received more than 22,000 upvotes, admitted that OP’s mother-in-law was likely out of line, but offered a similar response to many others.

“Yes, it was VERY s***** [of] your [mother-in-law] to book you in economy class, while your husband was in first,” they wrote. “But you let a petty quarrel…prevent you from supporting your husband when he needed you the most.”

“Your mother-in-law was petty and juvenile, but your husband’s father just died,” Redditor u/mountyofdoyle chimed in. “The fact that neither yourself or [your mother-in-law] could put your s*** aside for a situation like that is the most disappointing part of all.”

Newsweek reached out to u/Sadandexhausted133 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.