In the post, the woman asks: “Am I losing my mind over nothing or did he cross a line?”
She describes how after a night at his brother’s house, her husband came home the next day with a new haircut, “Terrible buzz cut, one length all the way around, looks like a kiwi fruit.”
She then explains: “I asked him who did it and he said it was his brother’s girlfriend. She’s no hairdresser. The haircuts I’ve given him in the past were just as bad but at least I did them. I’ve always said she’s a little too friendly with my husband. A bit of a pick-me girl.
“He’s never seen it and never shown any interest during family gatherings. I feel betrayed. I feel embarrassed. Surely she thought that she’s better than me and that I’m a useless wife that can’t even cut my husband’s hair?! She’s a nice girl and we get on but I feel like that kind of stuff should be done by me or the hairdresser. No one else. Maybe his mum if push comes to shove. Why not go to the barber or ask me? Why ask her? I’m so upset and he’s saying I’m overreacting.”
The vast majority of users are calling this a huge overreaction, with one user going as far to say: “Christ. Get a grip. You are overreacting massively. And I doubt she thought that you were a shit wife while cutting his hair. Because that’s insane”. At the same time, another wrote: “I’m hoping no one is as pathetic as this in real life. It’s a haircut, no one cares and no one sees you as a bad wife because you didn’t cut your husband’s hair.”
One user simply exclaimed: “What? Why would you get upset about THAT?”
The ‘Pick Me’ Girls
The ‘Pick Me Girl’ phenomenon on TikTok is another result of the social media platforms’ uncanny ability to create a new label for an old paradigm, making it culturally relevant to the younger generations. The #pickmegirl has over 1.8 billion views on TikTok, and is typically a derogatory way of girls referring to other girls who they perceive to be more of a ‘guys girl’, who show interest in stereotypically male interests with the goal, whether consciously or not, to become closer to men and get their attention, and thrives off being told she’s ’not like most girls’.
It has been hailed as yet another way to shame women, and interpret their behavior as inappropriate to further damage female-to-female relationships and perpetuate social misogyny. Back in June, Stamford professor Michele Dauber called lawyer Camille Vasquez a “Pick Me Girl Lawyer” in response to her work as a lawyer for Johnny Depp in his defamation trial against Amber Heard. In an original Tweet she wrote: “Of all the women who suck up to male power, women lawyers are the absolute worst of the bunch. Desperate to prove they are “real lawyers” and understanding that being a woman undermines their identity as lawyers, they throw women under the bus as hard and fast as they can.”
